I know this is a random ass blog post but folks can agree that sometimes you just don’t want to be around people, especially in Seattle! I’m guilty of it. In high school and college I adored meeting new people. Stuffing words into every pause throughout a conversation was a favorite pastime. Then, I graduated and started adulting. Suddenly being around people wasn’t as fun. Everything got serious, relationships got sticky, I suffered a few heartbreaks and became an introvert. Now I want out!
One of lifes’ many joys is people. I don’t care how many negative experiences we had in the past, people make life interesting, they make it special, they make it memorable. Maybe I have a small case of FOMO (fear of missing out) but I don’t want to tuck myself away and risk loosing out on precious interactions. Those interactions help us grow and there’s nothing I want more than to be my best self. So I came up with these 3 easy tips to remind myself to chill and enjoy the company when I’m around other people.
Stop, drop and listen. No, I mean really listen. Give the person you’re conversing with your full attention. Not only is it a sign of respect but when you listen you begin to find ways to identify with what the other person is saying. Once you begin to identify with their words a commonality is established and voila, you have the makings of a mutually edifying conversation.
2. Stop Thinking About Your To Do List
I’m so guilty of this, but the real reason I do it is so I don’t have to be vulnerable and in the moment. If our to-do lists were really that important they would’ve been done already. The truth is in order to enjoy the company of another you have to be in that moment with them, mind and body. Your presence is essentially a gift, with it you’re opening yourself up to possibilities with this other person or persons.
We all like to talk – I know I do – so why stay mute? Offer something to the conversation. Just like ping pong the ball has to bounce to both sides of the table to qualify as an actual game. Make it an interaction. The more you listen, establish common ground and enjoy the moment the more you’ll have to share, so go on and talk it up! No need to hide your bubbly personality or opinion, let others see and hear you.
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Tell next time, nama-slay friends!